"I鈥檓 bored!"
"I don鈥檛 know what to do鈥"
"So BORED!"
For all our efforts at home learning and opportunities for endless screen time, there are lots of children for whom being at home is frustrating and dull.
It isn鈥檛 helping family morale when parents are under more pressure than a children's entertainer to endlessly occupy the kids.
But should we even try to do so? Maybe boredom actually serves a purpose.
What is boredom?
Boredom isn鈥檛 an obvious emotion like anger, sadness or joy, but it is an emotional state and scientists suspect it serves an evolutionary purpose. Boredom is our way of pushing past complacency, it's a driver for exploring new places and things which has led humans to innovate and keep trying novel approaches because we generally love shiny new things.
We are subtle creatures and our boredom is a . It can lead to frustration and anger, or it could inspire that 鈥榥ext step.鈥
Don鈥檛 screens mean that nobody gets bored?
Bitesize spoke to Dr Sandi Mann who is a psychology lecturer at the University of Central Lancashire and author of The Science of Boredom: Why Boredom is Good.
鈥淵ou鈥檇 think that people brought up on the internet wouldn鈥檛 know what boredom is anymore, but research shows that kids are more bored than ever and where the generation above have learnt to cope with lower levels of stimulation, they haven鈥檛.鈥
鈥淭hey have this very high level of stimulation, that lowers their boredom threshold, so they need more stimulation not to be bored and they are not able to un-bore themselves. They have to use the internet and scroll their boredom away where the generation above learned to use other means.鈥
鈥淏ut we鈥檝e got a real opportunity here when kids aren鈥檛 being rushed from school to activity and play dates, we鈥檝e got the potential for real downtime and that means time to be bored where they have to un-bore themselves.鈥
For academic Dr Teresa Belton, boredom is potentially the spark we need to get creative. She asked many creative people about their work and their childhood and the need for boredom as a 鈥渃reative state.鈥 Talking to the 大象传媒 previously she said:
"When children have nothing to do now, they immediately switch on the TV, the computer, the phone or some kind of screen. The time they spend on these things has increased. But children need to have stand-and-stare time, time imagining and pursuing their own thinking processes or assimilating their experiences through play or just observing the world around them."
Dr Mann has these three tips for parents
Let them get bored
鈥淚 think parents are told we have to be stimulating our children all of the time. Now we are in lockdown again it is all about 鈥榟ome-schooling鈥 and not letting them lose the advantage in education. I think that we are very much afraid that if our kids are bored, we鈥檙e failing as parents, but actually I think it鈥檚 the other way around and we鈥檙e failing as parents if we don鈥檛 let them get bored.
Limit screen time and computers
鈥淒on鈥檛 just rely on devices where they use passive things to reduce their boredom. They need real boredom time where the only thing they have to entertain themselves is their own imagination and creativity. That is something we have lost.鈥
Give them resources
鈥淒ressing up stuff and things for craft - anything you can find lying around. They need to do it actively; they need to use their own imagination. This makes them more tolerant of boredom, it will help them to be able to concentrate more and to build their own creativity because I fear creativity will become stifled from them not being able to have that downtime.鈥
One parent's experience
Primary School teacher Monica Saunders has three daughters aged 15, 13 and five. She agrees with Dr Mann鈥檚 approach.
鈥淚t has taken weeks to find a routine that works for everyone. I鈥檝e let them find their own way to do it, and they鈥檝e made their own different routines. I have encouraged them to use this time to find something that they鈥檇 like to do and wouldn鈥檛 normally have the time for. Social media is great for keeping in touch with friends, but they have started to get bored of it and begun to find other things to do. The good thing about this is it is making them more resourceful. Even going around their local areas, they would normally look at maps on their phones if they go the wrong way.鈥
鈥淏ut because there is a lot less happening on their social media, a lot of which is around what is happening at school, they are starting to find other things 鈥 they did two quizzes at the weekend that the kids set up themselves and they were out in the garden for ages thinking up clues which they might not normally have the patience or time to do.鈥
So if you鈥檝e been inspired by these ideas for letting kids experience boredom, then perhaps you could include them in a lockdown routine, like yoga and learning times tables? It might give you the ammunition to say 鈥淏oredom is good for you 鈥 enjoy it while you can!鈥
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