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For many parents and carers, life is full of challenges - juggling family and work - particularly in the last couple of years. So, it鈥檚 important to check in on our own wellbeing, as well as that of our children.

Wellbeing and resilient relationships don鈥檛 just happen, they need care and attention.

Self-care isn鈥檛 a luxury - it is the essential battery recharge we all need to have the physical and mental energy to make the most of good times, and to keep going during tough times.

The power of self-care

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Looking after ourselves in this way - through self-care - doesn鈥檛 need something extraordinary, but some 鈥榦rdinary magic鈥 (as described by the psychologist, Ann Masten). Moments of kindness, the offer of a helping hand, showing and receiving care and attention, all have the power to transform even the darkest moments.

As a parent or carer, you may well be thinking about your own child鈥檚 wellbeing while overlooking your own. But keeping going with many aspects of parenting, relies on you putting your own oxygen mask on first to look after yourself. That way, you will be best able to offer a helping hand to the children and teenagers in your life.

Everyone鈥檚 approach to self-care will look different, but it is helpful to run through a mental checklist of some of the important areas to consider:

Check 1: Looking after my body

Taking care of our physical wellbeing can go a long way to boosting emotional wellbeing.

That includes a variety of daily activities, like paying attention to what we eat, taking time to exercise and to relax, and maintaining good quality sleep.

Having a healthy and balanced diet improves how you feel physically. It can also lift mood, motivation and energy levels.

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Check 2: Time away from screens

Making sure we have some time away from screens during the day and ensuring that screen time is limited before going to sleep, are important to enable us to reset and recharge.

Look at what you can replace screen time with, like keeping active through regular exercise and building fun physical activity into your day.

As a family, playing games together can be a great way to enjoy each other鈥檚 company and invest in everyone鈥檚 wellbeing. Catching up with a friend, by phone or in person in the open air, can help create a space for your own self-care too.

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Check 3: The value of routine

Think about how your own routines as a family may have changed (or even disappeared, despite your best intentions) as your children get older. Teenagers naturally come alive at night and, if they have been spending a lot of time at home, many have turned night into day.

Helping your children, whatever their age, to gradually re-establish a regular routine will be an important way to support them during their time away from school, including during the holidays.

Check 4: Finding a balance

Time away from work is usually an opportunity to relax, but things still need to get done. So you need to find a balance.

A little forward planning can help everyone to make the most of this free time. Mix up the day with some 鈥榤ust do鈥檚鈥, and then the fun activities that reward you for doing them.

If what you want to get done seems too big to tackle, perhaps think of it as a 鈥榩izza plan鈥 with each slice representing one small part of the whole - then you can work through it one slice at a time.

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Check 5: Stay connected

Once our basic needs are met, the quality of our relationships is by far the most important thing in predicting long-term physical and mental health. These connections have got us through many challenges and, as we are able to see our friends and family in-person again, remember to nurture them as you may have done with regular video calls, or socially distanced walks during the pandemic.

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Check 6: Looking ahead

In the last couple of years, young people have faced big disappointments, with cancelled holidays, exams, social gatherings, and some uncertainty around what will happen next. Helping them to create new plans is an important way of supporting them. Don鈥檛 forget yourself, and the value for you too of beginning to have ideas about the future.

Getting through the pandemic has been a big achievement. It is okay not to be totally okay with uncertainty, and to feel a mixture of emotions. When you can, allow yourself and your family a little time to take stock, reflect and recharge. Looking after ourselves, and each other, continues to be really important at this time.

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These tips have been provided by Dr Roslyn Law who is a Consultant Clinical Psychologist at the charity Anna Freud who also have these for young people recommended by young people themselves - as well as self-care tips for and .

For parents of babies and pre-school children 大象传媒 Tiny Happy People have a collection of advice here.

The 大象传媒 Action Line has further support.

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