Key points about relationships and family
- Christianity teaches that the Church should be the foundation of family life.
- Most Christians believe marriage is important, but there are different views about divorce and remarriage within the religion.
- Some Christians believe the The BibleThe holy book of Christians. It has 66 books split into two sections: Old Testament and New Testament. teaches God made male and female to complete each other and procreate/procreationTo produce/the production of offspring by means of sexual reproduction..
- There are a range of views towards homosexualityBeing attracted to people of one's own sex or gender. within Christian denominationsA group within a religion. Christian denominations include, for example, Roman Catholic and Anglican denominations..
- The Bible teaches that all humans are equal, but views differ on the roles of men and women in Christian worship.
Remember
There are a range of Christian denominations, and therefore various Christian teachings on ethical issues.
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The purpose of the Christian family
The family is the original cell of social life."
The Catechism of the Catholic Church - paragraph 2207
For most Christians, the family is an important institution and can include traditional nuclear familyA family unit consisting of two adults and any number of children living together. The children might be biological, step or adopted., stepfamilies, extended families and same-sex parents.
Christian teachings refer to God as the Father, creator, and sustainer of all living things. Many Christians see this as evidence that family relationships reflect God’s parental care for all humanity and the family unit is important for society, as well as the Christian faith.
Christians can look to the Bible for guidance on relationships with their family members. For example, the Ten CommandmentsThe list of rules, revealed by God to Moses, found in the Old Testament books of Exodus and Deuteronomy. Also known as the Decalogue. instructs Christians to appreciate and respect their parents:
Honour your father and your mother.”
Exodus 20:12
The three main purposes of the Christian family
Depending on the denomination, the purpose of the Christian family might include:
To provide a secure environment for family through marriage – Many Christians believe that marriage is a commitment for couples to love and support each other and share in the care and upbringing of children. As Jesus said: “Love one another: just as I have loved you,” (John 13:34).
To procreate – In Genesis, God tells a man to be with his wife and as a couple to have children: “Be fruitful and multiply,” (Genesis 1:28). Many Christians understand this verse to be a command to leave their parents, get married and then have children in that order.
To raise children in the Christian faith – Verses such as: “Start children off on the way they should go,” (Proverbs 22:6) encourage Christians to bring their children up in their faith. Depending on the denomination, this may include: Baptism, Holy Communion, Confirmation and reading the Bible.
GCSE exam-style question
Which of the following terms means "having sympathy and concern for the suffering of others"?
a) cohabitation
b) contraception
c) compassion
d) gender equality
c) Compassion is the word that means having sympathy and concern for the suffering of others.
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Marriage in Christianity
The nature and purpose of marriage
Many Christians view marriage as a gift from God and a covenantAn agreement or promise. between God and the couple. It is understood that the married couple’s love for each other reflects the sacred love Christ has for the Church.
A Christian wedding ceremony
There are different understandings around the sanctityThe quality of being holy or sacred. and purpose of marriage within Christian denominationsA group within a religion. Christian denominations include, for example, Roman Catholic and Anglican denominations.. For example:
Many Christians believe that the main purpose of marriage is to honour God by following His command to leave their parents and become husband and wife: "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh," (Mathew 19:4-6).
The command: “Be fruitful and multiply," (Genesis 1:28) is interpreted by many Christians to mean that a couple should have children. Children are seen as a gift from God within Christian marriage based on this verse:
Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.”
Psalm 127:3
- For many Roman Catholic Christians, the sacramentRituals that teach, strengthen and express faith. They are relevant to all areas and stages of life, and Roman Catholics believe that the love and gifts of God are given through seven sacraments. of marriage is a public sign that an individual is giving themselves, totally, to another person. It is seen as a public statement about their belief because the loving union has God at the centre of it.
The married state has been established by the Creator … God himself is the author of marriage."
Catechism of the Catholic Church 1604
Polygamy
polygamyPolygamy is the practice of having more than one spouse. is illegal in the UK. Whilst not commonly accepted within Christianity, some denominations such as Lutheran Christians or The Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (a denomination of Christianity in the USA), allow polygamy to take place, however, this is not widely practiced.
GCSE exam-style question
Give two Christian beliefs about the importance of marriage.
Answers could include:
Most Christians believe that the Bible is clear about the importance of marriage, especially where it states that a man and a woman should leave their parents and become "one flesh," (Mathew 19:6).
Many Christians believe the vows said during a wedding are a covenant with God, and that marriage should not come to an end as it is a spiritual union made before God: "What God has joined together, let no one separate,” (Matthew 19:6).
Divorce and remarriage
Divorce is a legal process that ends marriage.
Jesus taught that anyone who divorced and remarried, except for sexual immorality, was committing adulterySexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not their spouse.:
I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery."
Matthew 19:9
Since adultery is forbidden in the Ten CommandmentsThe list of rules, revealed by God to Moses, found in the Old Testament books of Exodus and Deuteronomy. Also known as the Decalogue., most Christians do not undertake divorce lightly.
You shall not commit adultery."
Exodus 20:14
However, Jesus did allow for divorce in the case of a partner’s infidelityThe action of being unfaithful to a spouse..
The Roman Catholic Church does not recognise divorce. According to Roman Catholic teaching, a marriage can only end when one partner dies or if there are grounds for an annulment A way of ending a marriage that is different from a divorce and declares the marriage as invalid. It can be granted by the Catholic Church, and means that a marriage never legally existed. .
How do various Christian denominations view divorce?
The Catholic Church does not recognise civil divorce and teaches that the marriage continues in the eyes of God. Therefore neither partner can remarry in a Catholic Church.
Most Protestant Churches teach that divorce is not desirable but accept that divorce can happen when all other attempts to save the marriage have failed and care has been taken concerning the interests and future of any children.
The Anglican Church (which includes the Church of Ireland) does not advocate divorce, but it is allowed if the marriage has truly broken down and cannot be repaired. Someone who is divorced can remarry in an Anglican Church if permission is given by the Bishop.
Some denominationsA group within a religion. Christian denominations include, for example, Roman Catholic and Anglican denominations. including the Methodist Church or the United Reformed Church accept divorce and remarriage, as they see it as part of the Christian teaching of forgiveness. These Churches allow divorced people to remarry in church, although sometimes it is at the discretion of the minister.
All Christian denominations allow widows and widowers to remarry as their first marriage has ended in death.
So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children."
Timothy 5:14
GCSE exam-style question
What is meant by the term "adultery"?
Adultery is the situation where voluntary sexual intercourse takes place between a married person and a person who is not their spouse.
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Same-sex relationships in Christianity
The legal changing of the definition of marriage in the UK, to include same-sex couples has caused debate in many Christian organisations and communities. Some Christians use teachings from the Bible and Church traditions as evidence for not accepting that marriage should include same-sex couples.
Be fruitful and multiply."
Genesis 1:28
Some Christians see the above quote as an argument against same-sex marriage as these couples cannot fulfil this through natural conception. The Catholic Church and many Evangelical Christian Churches teach that marriage excludes same-sex relationships, as they believe that homosexual acts go against divine and natural law.
In some of St Paul's letters included in the Bible, he condemns men who have sex with men as “unrighteous” and claims that men who practise homosexualityBeing attracted to people of one's own sex or gender. will not "inherit the Kingdom of God," (1 Corinthians 6:9-11).
Interpretation of Biblical verses about homosexuality has caused debate between many Christians, with some denominations arguing that the biblical teachings are outdated and don’t reflect modern views.
Other Christians accept that monogamousHaving a relationship with only one partner at a time. homosexual relationships can have the same values that are central to a Christian marriage. These Christians argue that it is not right to deny same-sex couples a marriage, simply because the union cannot result in children through natural conception.
Some Christian denominations, including the Quakers and the United Reformed Church, have conducted same-sex weddings since the new legislationA particular law, or a group of related laws passed by Parliament. came into effect, in 2013.
This quote from Quaker writings confirms their position:
We affirm the love of God for all people, whatever their sexual orientation … to reject people on the grounds of their sexual orientation is a denial of God’s creation."
Wandsworth Preparative Meeting, 1989
GCSE exam-style question
Explain two Christian religious beliefs about same-sex marriage.
Refer to sacred writings or another source of religious belief and teaching in your answer.
Answers could include:
The book of Genesis states that a man and woman should leave their parents to become "one flesh" (Mathew 19:6) and have children. Therefore some Christian denominations, including members of the Roman Catholic Church, use this as evidence that same-sex marriage is unacceptable, because same-sex couples are not biologically able to conceive children.
However, other Christians, including Quakers, believe that Biblical teachings should be reinterpreted in light of more modern beliefs within society: "We affirm the love of God for all people, whatever their sexual orientation," (Wandsworth Quaker Preparative Meeting, 1989).
Sex before marriage
Some Christians believe sex before marriage devalues God-given sexuality: “But if they can’t control themselves, they should get married, because it’s better to marry than to burn with passion,” (1 Corinthians 7:9).
The Catholic Church teaches that sex should only take place within marriage:
Experience teaches us that love must find its safeguard in the stability of marriage, if sexual intercourse is truly to respond to the requirements … of human dignity."
Catholic document, Persona Humana
Therefore some Christians will choose chastityRefraining from all sexual intercourse. before marriage:
Marriage should be honoured by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."
Hebrews 13:4
Cohabitation
Many Christians accept that, although marriage is preferred, cohabitation is acceptable where there is faithfulness, loyalty and commitmentA pledge, promise or obligation. within a long-term relationship.
Pope Francis teaches that marriage is the appropriate context for sexual relationships, but he has also stated that this is a matter of conscience, rather than a strict rule. He recognises that financial and cultural issues may lead to cohabitation rather than marriage.
Pope Francis has commented on cohabitation. In The Joy of Love (2016)A document produced by Pope Francis, after a two year process in which bishops from around the world discussed the theme of love in families.he said: "In such cases, respect can also be shown for those signs of love, which in some way, reflect God’s own love,".
Adultery
You shall not commit adultery.”
Exodus 20:14
This is one of the Ten CommandmentsThe list of rules, revealed by God to Moses, found in the Old Testament books of Exodus and Deuteronomy. Also known as the Decalogue. in Christianity.
Faithfulness within marriage is important to Christians. Teachings such as: “But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so, destroys himself,” (Proverbs 6 :32) support the view that couples should not commit adultery.
Contraception
Christianity teaches that children are a gift from God: “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him” (Psalm 127: 3). However, some Christians accept there can be psychologicalRelating to the mind, eg mental attitude and personality., economic, environmental or medical factors that can impact on the decision to have a child and debate whether the use of contraception to prevent pregnancy is acceptable.
The Catholic Church takes the teaching from the Bible that states “Be fruitful and multiply,” (Genesis 1:28) as evidence that God has intended procreation and therefore no artificial contraception is permitted. However, natural methods are accepted if beneficial to the mother and the family.
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Remember
Some Christians will apply the theory of Situation ethics theorySituation ethics is a theory where the situation is taken into account first, before deciding on the rules of right and wrong. The only rule for this theory is agape - it should follow the most loving thing in any given situation as proposed by Joseph Fletcher. when it comes to making ethical decisions in relation to family life.
The roles of men and women
There are differing thoughts and practices among Christian denominations on the roles of women and men in worship.
The Book of Genesis states that women were created to be helpers: "But for Adam no suitable helper was found…Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man,” (Genesis 2:20-22).
Some Evangelical Christians believe this is evidence that, in worship, men should be the leaders and women should be the helpers. Some Christians also believe that, as Jesus’s twelve disciples were male, this is further evidence that men should lead in Christianity.
Some Catholic and traditional Protestant churches see this quote as further evidence that The Church should be led by men and do not allow women priests:
Women should keep silent in the churches … it is improper for a woman to speak in church."
Corinthians 14:34–35
However, many Christians believe these views do not hold a place in today’s Christian society. They may argue that the Bible was written at a time of male dominated society therefore gender inequalityWhere a system means some people are better off than others, such as in pay, working rights or the law. was common. Many Churches today reflect the belief that both men and women were created equally in God’s image, therefore both should have a leading role in worship, “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them," (Genesis 1:27).
The Quakers, The Salvation Army and the Anglican Church all allow female ministers and believe that as God loves us all equally, gender in leadership is not important.
Nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
Galatians 3:28
GCSE exam-style question
Explain two Christian religious beliefs about gender equality.
Refer to sacred writings or another source of religious belief and teaching in your answer.
Based on the Biblical teachings that all humanity was made in the image of God, “So God created mankind in his own image," (Genesis 1:27), many Christians believe that all men and women are equal. Jesus treated all as equals, which went against the society rules at the time. This example leads many Christians to believe that people should carry out roles and responsibilities based on their abilities, and not on their gender.
However, some Christians interpret the Bible to mean that, whilst equal, there are different roles for men and women. For example, that men should be leaders in the church, "Women should keep silent in the churches," (Corinthians 14:34) whilst a woman should be responsible for the teaching of children.
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