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Find out more about parents.

Not all families are the same – you could be part of a single-parent family, a foster family, be an only child, have two dads or two mums, have loads of siblings, live in care or with other family members. Whatever your family set up, being able to talk to the adult(s) in your life is important. So, if you need to talk – how do you go about it?

Here are some tips for talking to your parents -

1. Pick your moment

Adults have good and bad days too – it’s important to think about how they might be feeling and pick a good time to talk. It can help to ask “is this a good time to talk about something important?”

2. Keep your cool

Think through what you want to say and explain your opinions calmly. You’re far more likely to be listened to. Make a list or write down your thoughts in advance. Stay calm and try not to shout or interrupt. Don’t forget, your parents will have a point of view too. They won’t feel listened to unless you listen to them. It works both ways!

3. Let it go!

Take a deep breath and let smaller issues go! Focus on what’s important rather than being drawn into petty arguments. If you find yourself getting upset by “small stuff”, ask yourself honestly if something bigger is going on, and address that instead.

4. Learn to compromise

Part of being grown up means not having your own way all the time. Tough, but true. So learn to compromise. If you want more freedom, or your mates round at the weekend, then try doing something for your parents (tidy that room maybe?). You never know, they might just do something for you.

5. Don’t compare

Sometimes wish you had someone else’s parents instead? It’s easy to think especially if friends are allowed to stay out later or go places you’re not allowed to. Try and remember your parents or guardians are most likely doing the best they know how to make sure you’re safe. You’ve got the parents you’ve got, how can you work with them to make it better all round?

6. Don’t worry

Finally, remember that it’s normal to argue with your parents, especially as you get older and start to become more independent. Try not to worry about it, keep talking, and things should work out.

Finally, if you find that arguments aren’t being resolved, or if an adult in your life scares you or treats you badly, speak to someone you trust – it’s really important not to keep it to yourself.

For information about organisations which can offer more advice on a range of issues, check out the advice helplines page.

You can get more tips in the Lifebabble guide to family, find out how the Lifebabblers get on with their parents, or check out which celebs have embarrassing parents.��