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  Posted by Fuchsia-of-Penwith (U3079022) on Sunday, 12th February 2006

  Can't something be done about Overly Critical.
  I look forward to seeing new posts on the boards and am disappointed when they are just feeble riposts from OC
  What a let down !!!
  

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  Posted by susie-snowdrop (U2989562) on Sunday, 12th February 2006

  Hi Fuchsia!
  I too used to feel like that about OC but, and I'm very sorry, I feel he is quite amusing sometimes and quite harmless!
  You never know, he may even take on board some of our enthusiasm and end up being a very keen gardener when he eventually gets a place of his own.
  

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  Posted by Lottie (U2331125) on Sunday, 12th February 2006

  Can't something be done about Overly Critical.
  I look forward to seeing new posts on the boards and am disappointed when they are just feeble riposts from OC
  What a let down !!!
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  Now I'm ....
  
  LL
  

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  Posted by Rhoda Dendron (U2176380) on Sunday, 12th February 2006

  Hi Fuchsia
  
  I agree with you really - I'm afraid he gets a little over-enthusiastic at times. Still there are a lot worse things he could be up to and I wouldn't like him to feel overly rejected.
  
  

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  Posted by Sheila1 (U2826143) on Sunday, 12th February 2006

  Don't you think O.C.might be trying to wind people up? If his messages were ignored they might stop. Just a thought. Can't something be done about Overly Critical.
  I look forward to seeing new posts on the boards and am disappointed when they are just feeble riposts from OC
  What a let down !!!
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  Posted by Obelixx (U2157162) on Monday, 13th February 2006

  He's a young and frustrated football board devotee. He comes on here, and one or two other boards, when the footie boards get closed down. We can either report him to the mods which seems a bit extreme as he is just silly and not really rude, or we can ignore him or we could tolerate him but try and "educate" him about board etiquette and maybe even pass on the delights of plants and gardening.

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  Posted by Rhoda Dendron (U2176380) on Monday, 13th February 2006

  He's a young and frustrated football board devotee. He comes on here, and one or two other boards, when the footie boards get closed down. We can either report him to the mods which seems a bit extreme as he is just silly and not really rude, or we can ignore him or we could tolerate him but try and "educate" him about board etiquette and maybe even pass on the delights of plants and gardening.Ìý
  
  Hi Obelixx - I did promise myself that I would leave this topic alone but find myself unable to do so.
  
  He says he is a young and frustrated football fan but we only have his word for that and he has already lied. He has been banned from several boards and/or his postings have been removed. Some of the posters on this board clearly feel that he is a possibly lonely young lad who could be tolerated and encouraged to take an interest in gardening. I also felt he should be given a chance.
  
  Now my view is that he is not just silly but actually quite rude, manipulative and disingenuous. Unfortunately he is also being given mixed messages from people alternately encouraging or rebuffing him and he clearly doesn't understand when to back off. I am happy to have a childish conversation with 'consenting' adults I don't want to have a childish conversation with a child on this forum. I am aware that anyone should have the right to join in when and where they want on these boards and that asking someone to leave my thread is really ridiculous. However I also wish I hadn't been put in the position where I felt like doing that. I intensely dislike the culture of "banning" things but I am willing to make an exception in his case.
  
  Will no-one rid us of this troublesome child?
  
  Rhoda

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  Posted by Obelixx (U2157162) on Monday, 13th February 2006

  I understand your point completely Rgoda and hadn't actually seen him being rude and stupid. If he has then he should of course be banned. A quick note to the mods using the exclamation mark on any message should do it.

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  Posted by William (U2169036) on Monday, 13th February 2006

  
  Will no-one rid us of this troublesome child? Ìý
  
  Hi Rhoda
  I think it is more effective and stimulating to stimulate an respond to positive elements in someones behaviour than to try to iron or beat out unwanted flaws.
  
  Generally speaking the response to "invaders" on the gardening boards have been rather moderate and have been based on respect for those "trespassing". And that is not the same as not drawing any line. I kind of like that approach and it leaves an open window for developing the mutual contact.
  
  

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  Posted by Skarloey (U2326588) on Monday, 13th February 2006

  Good grief. What a thread.
  This young lad is probably wetting his pants laughing at having succeeded to wind you lot (who don't want him) right up.
  Any stupid remark IGNORE.
  Any remotely inteligent gardening related remark PRAISE.
  He'll soon get bored if you ignore him or reply with a single 'Thankyou' however stupid the comment.
  Remember.... DON'T FEED THE FLIPPIN' TROLL!!!!!

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  Posted by Rhoda Dendron (U2176380) on Tuesday, 14th February 2006

  
  Will no-one rid us of this troublesome child? Ìý
  
  Hi Rhoda
  I think it is more effective and stimulating to stimulate an respond to positive elements in someones behaviour than to try to iron or beat out unwanted flaws.
  
  Generally speaking the response to "invaders" on the gardening boards have been rather moderate and have been based on respect for those "trespassing". And that is not the same as not drawing any line. I kind of like that approach and it leaves an open window for developing the mutual contact.
  
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  Hi William
  
  What are we running here? A gardening forum or a rehabilitation centre for wayward children?
  
  I haven't directly requested that the mods either remove him or his postings (some of which I found offensive, in particular the "why don't you get a life" response which is so favoured by the feeble-minded - if I could get a life then I would). And no doubt the young lad is wetting his pants laughing at that.
  
  I agree that that the response to invaders usually is, and should be, moderate and that seems to have worked in the past. Skarloey's point that stupid remarks should be ignored and intelligent remarks praised only works if the "invader" has the maturity, intelligence and desire to fit in. Let's hope we don't have to wait too long for him to get bored.

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  Posted by William (U2169036) on Tuesday, 14th February 2006

  Hi Rhoda
  
  Not running anything - certainly not a rehab centre -, just a general approach I find quite effective and pleasing both on the boards and in day to day life....
  Which doesn't mean I don't maintain a line around myself on which a strick 'no trespassing' policy is upheld.
  
  Pitty the special gueast board has closed, we could have made a special 606 expat border .... "Behind the Garden Fence" ....
  

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  Posted by Rhoda Dendron (U2176380) on Tuesday, 14th February 2006

  
  
  Pitty the special gueast board has closed, we could have made a special 606 expat border .... "Behind the Garden Fence" ....
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  Or "On the Compost Heap"
  
  

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