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鈥業t doesn鈥檛 hurt like it did... but I鈥檒l always have a chip in my heart鈥�

4 April 2019

The birth of a baby can be one of the happiest moments in life, but in the UK , while .

On 大象传媒 ALBA’s Gaol is Call/Labour of Love, journalist Mairi Rogers investigated how women cope with the grief that accompanies the early loss of a child.

She spoke to Lisa Hague, who lost her daughter Lola over 10 years ago.

“I’m not over her dying,” explained Lisa. “I’m never going to be OK with the fact that she died. I’ve learned how to deal with it.”

Comhairle bho Lisa

Advice from Lisa.

Time to grieve

Lisa found that dedicating a day to Lola is beneficial.

“I give myself a day on her birthday to grieve. I think about her at some point every day, but having the time where I can really drop my guard and have my time to grieve is what gets me through. So I would say it doesn’t hurt now like it did for the first good few years.”

Lisa credits her three other children with helping her to cope with Lola’s absence.

“Having April, William and Jax has helped mend my heart — but there’s always going to be a Lola-sized chip in it and I’m happy to always have that scar on there.”