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Ellie Lowe from Stroud in Gloucestershire, got in contact to share her Memory Tape for her brother Rob who passed away three years ago. Here's her full story:

"I have been wanting to write to you for a long time with my memory tape but it never felt like the right time. Now it feels right.

A few years ago I heard a memory tape on your show by a girl called Emily Levy, she had lost her brother and the tape was for him. Immediately this stuck a chord with me as my beloved brother Rob had died very suddenly a few months earlier in April 2015.I was mesmerized by Emily and her story. I remember thinking how strong she sounded and I yearned to be as strong as she was. At that time I was lost in a thick fog of grief for Rob and had no idea where to go and how to get through it. Listening to Emily gave me a tiny glimmer of hope that I desperately needed at that time, I vowed that one day I would like to do a memory tape for my brother and to hopefully help other people who are lost in their grief like I was.

Through my experience grief is still treated as something that you will 鈥済et over鈥� or 鈥渕ove on鈥� from and something that people don鈥檛 want to talk about for fear of upsetting you. Luckily my family, including Rob鈥檚 wife and his 2 daughters are very close and we are all extremely open about our grief and are slowly learning to live with the massive hole that Rob has left in all our lives.

Since losing Rob I started compiling a playlist of songs. These are songs that I connect to lyrically or that move me to tears as I feel like they have been written about my experience. These songs have helped me through losing Rob. I play these when running in the woods and these songs help me connect to him and let my grief out which is so important to be able to move forward.

So my memory tape has been taken from my playlist and each song has special place in my heart.

This November 7th would have been Rob's 40th Birthday,
My family have also nearly finished compiling a book of stories of him from his family and friends, this is for his daughters to have so they will know what an incredible person their father was (they were 3 and 1 when he died). So to have this memory tape played on air for his 40th birthday would mean the world to me."

FULL TRACKLISTING

The XX - Brave For You
Lapsley - Station
Ray Charles - I Can't Stop Loving You
Michael Kiwanuka - Rule The World
David Tomlinson/Dick Van Dyke & Co - Let's Go Fly A Kite (from Mary Poppins)

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