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Episode 201: Talk

Alice outside the hospital lift

Keeping secrets

Dr. Laver is asking Alice to keep a secret for him. Do you think she should or not?

Is it better to keep things secret or get them out in the open?

Are you good at keeping secrets?

This topic has now closed. Thanks for all your comments.

Kandy, Spain
I think is important to keep a secret to have friends, I usually forget it!

Andrea, Catalonia
yes I am, tell me lots of secrets.. I will keep them inside my heart

Marcia, Brazil
It's a human behavior to talk about others.Then: it's difficult to keep secrets, but it's possible. I can keep secrets but, I'm not so sure.

Mickey, Cambodia
It is not easy to keep secret, becuase true is true. If this time we can keep it secret but will have next time we will say out without attend. So to should say its out it will be keep secret

Aitor, Basque country
A secret it's something you can't tell two people at once, I mean, you must tell it to everybody but one by one.

Laetitia, France
I'm very good to keeping secrets even if sometimes it's something important. To keep a secret it's like giving a promess, you can't trust the other person, I think.We all have secrets and sometimes we like to share some secret with special friend and we're happy when they keep in.

Sj, India
I am pretty good at keeping secrets but only if the secrets can really harm or defame someone....And if someone really trusted you and told the secret then its really hurt if you open the secret even if its for fun.....

Irwan, Indonesia
In my opinion, there is something to keep it secret but also something to let it in the open that people will know, e.g. something unjust..

Fabiana, Italy
I'm good at keeping secrets but I think that sometimes disclosure can be the better way to help that person who has a problem and who entrusted to us.

Anna, Italy
I'm pretty good at keeping a secret.I think it's very hard somethimes but it'worth it for the sake of friendship! Bye Bye,Anna

Caesar, Chile
Women can't keep secrets, I've learnt my lesson...

Judie, Australia
Everyone should be intented to keeping secrets, when he,s asked for because it,s a kind of moral awareness. Of course there are different sorts of secrets, some of them are unlawful secrets which ought not be kept secret. But it,s much better when happenings in the private lives of other people are consealed as nobody like to get eyes on them when they,re out somewhere.

Tereza, Czech Republic
I think there are some things which should be said but in general I hate gossiping (especially gossips about me :-)). In my opinion, Alice should keep this secret if she wants to improve Dr Laver麓s attitude to her.

ThanhTruc, Vietnam
I think she shoudn't tell anybody this thing. She has a good personality through her behaviour implied in previous episodes. Tell someone's secrets is just so mean . I strongly believe that anybody has something need to keep secrets from others. Don't do such a bad thing like gossip around cause it makes you are so stupid.

Tasneem, India
yeah one should keep his/her friend secert because too hurt someone is not good.

Lakh, Algeria
Keeping secrets is not easy. we have always to be so strong to do that. Personally I am not keen on keeping secrets.

Linh, Vietnam
I am good at keeping secrets. when you keep secrect for someone, it proves you are credible. and i think it is proud. everyone has their own secrect. why don't we help them to protect it. mabe sometime i shared secrect with my friend and require him or her not to open my secrect. after sharing it, we feel better. ^.^....^.^

Anh, Vietnam
In my opinion, that's not very serious thing to share. It won't make some scandals in the hospital, forgetting secret is the best way she must do with it.I think it's better to get them out in the open among friends. But you have to keep all secret about your love, do not tell it with anyone (include your bff) or you will be regret because you did it. Believe me!!!According to what I said above, I just have kept all secret between me and my lover :x

Fione, China
i dont think it's good to tell others the secrect, especially the one that someone trusted you very much told you to keep it; and it's immoral to get the secrects out.

Danbi, South Korea
Yes, I am good at keeping secrets.I think that it is better to keep things secret if he wanted to be.

Marcela, Argentina
I'm think I'm good at keeping secrets, because It's important to keep friends relationship and to trust themselves.

Carine
If I were Alice, I think I will keep it secret because it will prove that she is really professional and she does not want to get her revenge on Dr Laver. But I have just voted for repeating this secret because Dr Laver behaved atrociuosly with her and his wife.

Marta, Spain
The better is to keep secret, but sometimes it is very dificult too.

Vanessa, Ghana
Well,to make the story interesting i think she should tell.But in real life i'd rather Alice did not.If a secret has to be told eg, someone has a kind of illness and needs treatment then you should tell even if your friend says no and will get mad at you if you tell but if the secret wont hurt anyone then its best you dont tell. Yes i am, when its necessary.

Peter, China
Yes. It is important to the privacy. Sometimes, it is a matter of law. We need to keep the confidentiality with the patient. And it is the perfermence of people.

Alexteaman, Taiwan
Promise is a Promise.If Alice has promised Dr.Laver not to get it out in the open , and then she should keep her words.Back in the day I was serious about the secrets ,and hoping my friends not to get it out in the open which would definetely make me feel awkward. At the moment I always deal them with humors and let go the embarrasement easily and happily.For the foreseeable future there are going to be more and more friends will appreciate this and befriend with me.

Ammar Alasbahi, Yemen
In my opinion, if Alice wants to win Dr.Laver's respect, then she should keep his secert to herself otherwise he would feel inferior to other people. And nobody is looking to feeling this way. Besides, if his fear of lifts were an open secret, it would make him feel uneasy being at work and resenful toward Alice because she is likely the only one who is able to spill the beans. If I were in Alice's shoes, I would keep his secret because I would not only save Dr.Laver's face but also score points with him. Therefore, it would be unwise of her if she told anyone about his secret.

Gislaine, Brazil
In fact, I'm very good at keeping secrets. I just have one problem though, I can't keep secret about my things,I always tell everybody everything that is going on in my life,which is often unnecessary,people with big mouths get into trouble too many times.

Tatiana, Russia
I hope Alice will be able to keep the secret because she is a good girl and sympathetic enough. But I'm not sure he deserves it.

nadia, pakistan
Yes, sometimes you need not to reveal other's secrets if one is sensitive and you think it will break his heart. In this case, he is not her relative or anything so she should do whatever she wants to do. Yes I am good at keeping secrets.

mhela,Phils.
Alice should not tell anybody about it. I think that it is better to keep things secret, especially if it will cause harm or embarassment to other people. Furthermore it will build a strong relationship with others. I can say that I am good in keeping things secret.

JC,Brazil
I think Alice should keep Dr. Laver's secret. In my opinion people should only tell their secrets to someone else if it's extremely necessary.

Shevon, India
We can sometimes leak out the secrets if we feel it's not going to harm anyone.

Paco, Spain
I am with Yang Home - the best time to tell someone a secret is when they are not listening.

Qiao, China
It really depends on what you have been told. If the secret is something like important information which could lead to solving a crime, I would definitely tell the police. Otherwise, I would just keep the secret to myself.

Oanh, Vietnam
I think everyone has private secrets which impact no-one.

Mae, Philippines
Sometimes I'm good at keeping secrets but there are times when I really feel that I have to blurt it all out. But I choose the people whom I would share the secret with.

Vladislav, Serbia
How could a poor woman to keep a secret?

Amal, Pakistan
I think we should have just one friend who keep our secret according to the demand of time and situation as nobody can live without friend. And friend should feel emotions and feeling of others when friend are sharing their secrets with us. I suggest Alice keeps Laver's secret as it's the demand of true friendship.

Punnary, Cambodia
I think that the secret thing is very important for us. And for other people too. When someone tell us about their secret it means that they put trust in us too. So when I got the secret thing from other, then I have to think that's good or not if I told the other? But for me I'm always a good listener and keeping secret also. I think the secret thing always about the bad thing. So we should think about this when we decide to tell another or not.

Valen, China
It depends. There are two types of secrects, I think. One of them - it's something like confidential and private that you can't tell anybody else. If you split on someone, she/he will be in danger or in a embarassed situation. Another one is more like gossip , when you talk with a friend. It's fine to talk about somebody else's gossip. And for most of the time, gossip is not real. People just treat it as a joke.

Nancy, Malawi
It is better to keep things secret in this context. Dr. Laver requested for it, so why not take his word.

Yangbae Lee, Korea
I am good at keeping secrets. if my friend wishes to share his secrets with me I'll be honored! If they wish that no one is to know, I respect that and look at it this way, If I break that I am not much of a good friend. I'd hate it if someone I trusted so much deceived me.

Tamis, South Africa
I'm terrible at keeping secrets. Once my best friend told me she was pregnant and when I realized I had already told everyone in the class. Only then did she take the test and found out it wasn't true... Shame on me...

Lira, UK
sometimes is better to share your seccrets with someone because it will make your feel better,hawever if the person who you shared with wiil tell this to someone else this will make him/her look bad and not you which you trusted. Sometimes you have to prove them with something that won't be a big seccret for you then you can share other things with them.

Guillaume, France
In my point of view you can share some secrets with your best friends because with this type of friend you can have faith on them. In the same way, they can share their secrets with you! However, you must choose very weel your mates to know their behaviour if someone ask one of your friend about a secret information!

Yang Home, Hong Kong
I have many freinds but they always like to punish me. They often tell me many about their private stuff and ask me to keep secrets for them. I never dissppionted them. However, I seldom tell my secret to my freinds because I know that people require a very strong self control not letting them out in the open, so I only tell a secret to myself in front of the mirror or to my wife when she is sleeping.

Kim, Malaysia
Never share your secrets with your best friend because he/she will share your secrets with his/her best friend, and one after another, at the end one of them will reveal "your" secret to you!

Shevon, India
She will not keep the secret and will tell her friends and acquaintances.

Joanna, China
I think Alice should keep the secret for the Dr.Laver. It is better to keep things secret. If someone told you his secret, he must trust in you very much.Thus we can't get somone's secrets out in the open because that will hurt them. My friends will tell their secrets to me. I always keep their secrets because I can't betray their trust.

Maha, Pakistan
I am not lucky in this matter as whenever I trust any one of my friends she broke my trust. But its my fault that I trust and give them chance to cheat me again. Of course I requested every one to keep my secrets, as i trusted them. It was my decision. Now its their turn to decide if my decision was right or wrong.

Whats Neyven, Brazil.
I'm good at keeping secrets and I think it is better to keep things secret.But I prefer Alice gets Dr. Laver'secret out in the open.

Germaine, Malaysia
Yes, keep it, respect his decision. Yes, I'm good at keeping some secrets, to keep world peace.

T
Yes, she keeps his secret naturally, because she doesn't take it seriously.

Silvia, italy
I think that is better to keep things secret when someone else asks you to.

Tolga,Turkiye
my secrets come to grave with me forever(sorry ,if i was mistaken :D)

MrStone, Vietnam
Personally, I think Alice should keep the secret on scaring of lift for Dr Laver. Actually, he has tried to hide it until he and Alice were in the same lift and unfortunately that lift was broken and finally Alice found out. To be honest, I don't like hearing of the confidential stories. It's really uncomfortable because I can't share it. If it's an accident and it's not good for someone if there is more people knowing it, I will keep it for his/her safe. However, there are something we should not hide it, for instance: when you know someone doing something bad such as crime.

Svetlana, Russia
I think, Alice should but wouldn't.I wouldn't .We have our friends to open all the sicrets we have.Than you will know if your friends are sencire with you.They say, the good friend is one who know all about you and still remains your friend.

Tatyana, Russia
one day on a Birthday party in the my job I proposed a toast to my colleague and congrutaleted her with she is mother-to-be now. A silence hang over our noisy table. In fact, nobody, exept me, didn't know about her interesting situation involving our Head. All were in shock. Party was finished. I was very sorry.

Dr.Sc.M.Mukhles, Japan
Yes, I am good at keeping secrets, because if some one want to be credential and trustworthy he or she needs to keep important things secret. It is better to avoid the people from embarrassing in front of the public. To live in a society as member of the society we need to behave our self as good personality. So it would be better to consider very good relation with others human kinds. This can be obtain by the keeping of secret of other individual. There is a verse: It says if you keep one secret of a person God will keep your hundred secrets.

Marcia, Brazil
Yes, I am good at keeping secrets. And when I want to tell someone a secret that is mine, I have the right person to tell. I trust in this person and I know she is not going to tell anyone. I believe that there are issues which are not convinient to them everybody.

Salvador, Spain
Alice should keep the secret for two reasons:The first one and the most important is that everybody deserves their secrets being kept.The secon reason is that in the case Alice decide to tell the secret to her workmates in such a small place as a hospital then the secret will easilly get back to the doctor's ears. In this moment Alice will become a person you cannot trust again.

Maxim, Russia
I think you shouldn芒鈧劉t rely on a person who芒鈧劉s bad at keeping secrets. Such kind of people do not deserve to be believed not only because it is mean to make fun of other people芒鈧劉s feelings, but also because they often break most of their promises and may let you down.

Silvia, Spain
Of course, you must always keep secrets. Friendship is based on being faithfful to your close friends or relatives or even colleagues at work. I always hope the same from them.

Sumera Umrani, Pakistan
I think secrets should be kept if someone confides you in. If one lets the secret open it may cause a sort of clash and sometimes break up. Once I spilled the beans unintentionally before my friends about another friend but for that I had to suffer alot.I also believe secrerts which do not hurt anyone or cause ay trouble may be disclosed for the sake of fun. But beware it should not be done at the cost of somebody's feelings.

Saly, Libya
Yes, it is better to keep things - that need to be secret - secret. With respect to me, keeping things secret caused problems with me because I was keeping normal things secret. This meant I was thinking of these things alone and silently.

Mark, Russia
Usually I keep secrets of other people and don't let them turn into gossip.

Grace, China
I think it's better to keep things secret since Dr. Laver will get embarresed if many of his collegues knows his problem with lifts. In fact we can be sure that everybody has a certain problem, while others are quit by nature. For this reason, it's better to keep things secret. As for myself, I'm good at it.

Amelia, New Zealand
I guess my answer is yes and no. It really depends on who the secrets relate to. If it's my best friend who is one of our own circle, maybe I'll tell it to other of our best friends. It really hard to keep it down to your heart. However, if it's someone else's secerts who just is my ordinary friend, I won't tell to anybody. As we are not so familiar with each other, it's an unrespect to him or her.

Vania, Brazil
Well, I think that she should keep the secret, however, the story would come to the end. So, I believe that she could tell her best friend and then, the story could keep going. I'm good at keeping secrets. All true friends know to maintain a secret from others.

Elascol, Spain
I'm very good keeping secrets.

Slava, Russia
Sure, if somebody trust me with his secrets, I'll keep it certainly. But if it is about me, it'll be more difficult!

Niranjan , Nepal
We don't have to keep each and every thing secret. It depends on how and what the thing is. If it is too personal, confidential and against others, well then, it should be kept secret. But things that doesn't harm and hurt one's personal thoughts, emotions and doesn't damage one's trust, morale and self confidence then that can be told out in the open. I think I'm good at keeping secrets. Because I understand well about someone's sensitivity. I'm aware about that some thing which might be fun for us can be big damage for others to their confidentiality. Secrecy is the most important asset to anyone.

Satguru, India
Alice is going to keep secret, otherwise Dr. Laver would be embarrassed.

Jorge, Chile
I think Alice should keep the secret. I believe it's better to keep secrets, but if it's something bad or could hurt someone, perhaps it would be better to reveal them. Personally, I'm really good st keeping secrets. I could say "I would take a secret to the grave".

Ahmed, Algeria
Keeping secrets is a habit. One should keep them to be trusted. It is question, of training

Jean Marie, France
She shouldn't. I'm sure she wouldn't. I bet the whole hospital will be informed in less than an hour. What a stupid man this Dr Laver! I wish my Doctor had some small disease like that, it would make him more human. Have you ever heard of a sick Doctor? Never! On the other hand he is asking her to keep a medical secret, she's not a Doctor. Furthermore as she said, who would believe that a claustrophobic Dr could exist. So, Alice is ironically saying to her boss that this news is to be published. I'm not good at keeping secrets because I think if anyone tell us a secret, he is secretly considering that we are going to spread it. Besides, isn't it odd hearing someone asking us: "could you keep a secret?" Of course, some information should have been kept secret, I mean medical, professional or if they led to bad consequences for anyone. I think that diffusing such information will be negative for the speaker himself and lead to unfair gossip.

Cong, Vietnam
If I were Alice, I won't tell anybody Dr.Laver's secret because it's not good. You, I and everyone also has some secrets. They're big or small, important or unimportant and you can keep them or get them out in the open. But I think if you want to say your secret to someone, you should believe in them and make sure they won't say to other. I have a lot of secrets and I am weak in keeping secrets. I don't know why I can tell my friends my secrets very easily. But I always believe them and they also don't make me disappointed. I just want to suggest that you should keep your secrets carefully because they won't be your secrets when you say them to anyone.

Anushka, India
I think we should not keep secrets. It's always better to keep your secrets open otherwise you will land in big trouble.

Andrey, Russia
There are two opinions for any secret. It's either not necessary to keep it or too glorious-killing not to. I'm a gossip :-)

Sebastiana, Spain
In my opinion, if someone ask you for discretion it is better to keep things secret than get them out in the open but I am not good at keeping secrets and most of the times I don't keep thing secret as I would like it

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